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I didn’t grow up being told I was a sinner in so many words. It was more subtle than that — woven into sermons, Sunday school lessons, the way adults talked about suffering as if it always had a reason. Someone got sick, and there was a quiet conversation about what they might have done… Read more: How I Learned to Blame Myself for Everything

I have told so many lies in my life that I have lost any real claim to knowing which parts of myself were built and which parts simply grew. This is, as far as I can tell, the central problem of my life, and possibly the central problem of most lives, though most people are… Read more: The Hole I Fell Into Denying It Existed

Every avoidance starts with a simple, human instinct: something hurts, so we look for a way to make it stop. A drink to quiet the noise. A scroll to numb the boredom. A withdrawal to avoid the conflict. None of it looks dangerous in the moment. It just looks like relief. But relief that never… Read more: The Prison You Built While Trying to Escape Yourself